"Dolci far niente" is an old Italian expression. It literally means 'sweet doing nothing' or the art of doing nothing. Blissful laziness. And I love it. And I love the fact Italians have an expression for this. They are proud of it!
Personally, I'm very good in 'Dolci far niente'. And luckily now I'm at a point that I don't feel guilty about it anymore. Because these moments often generate mindspace and creative ideas or even solutions. So they are very precious to me.
Many people however, simply don't have the peace & tranquility for this. And it is not as easy, especially if you have a family/ kids running around, asking your attention. It is actually hard work and you need to train yourself. Make time and stick to it. At first, for sure you'll feel restless and you'll have thoughts like 'what am I doing, I should be doing....'
Think about the first days of a holiday where you need to decompress & disconnect from work and your normal life and to 'get out of your head'. Then, think about the last days of your holiday, when you are relaxed and things seem to be easy. You just enjoy the day as it comes along.
So, why only having this relaxed feeling a couple of times a year during holiday? Try building it in your normal life. Built in rest points, recharge points, where you come out of your head, switch off your thoughts and just do whatever you feel like doing (as long as it is not an obligation). Could be cooking, daydreaming, exercising, reading, music, meditating, napping, whatever you like.
Important is to disconnect. Especially from social media. Dolci far niente doesn't go together with Facebook, Twitter or email. So switch it off. Same for television, switch it off.
Instead of measuring yourself by what you have accomplished in a day, measure your day by things that made you happy or smile and think about what was the nicest part of the day.
Enjoy!
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